In my opinion validation, its a tussle between internal and external, which makes the reader think whether the fight really necessary and about its rhetorical answer. In most cases, we give importance to external validation but in the process, forget about who we are, about our identity and purpose and most importantly, we deviate from being our 'Authentic Self'.
The questions summons itself, why does one mean by 'authentic self'?
Who are we?
Why do we forget our true selves to satisfy others?
What do we people mean when they say ‘we don’t fit in’
I would like to ask another question here, why does one even need to fit in in the first place?
Why don’t we just focus on being happy and true to ourselves, rather than customize and tweak our personality to satisfy others? I understand its easier said than done. Today most of us are struggling to understand our authenticity and nurture it. We are prone to get easily swayed and influenced - dismissing our authentic self in the process.
Would it not be lovely to just, for just a moment, we can shut ourselves away from the demanding world and just listen to the communication between our heart, mind, and subconscious!
Listen to our intuition. Just listen. Allow that message to tell us who we really are? Who we really ought to be? That my friend is called internal validation, that is what you are meant to be, that is your AUTHENTIC SELF.
Time and again our subconscious tells us the difference between right and wrong, yet we choose to ignore it. In today's world, we make the world outside of us so important, that we start following a path that we probably don’t even recognize - only for the validation of external entities. Most of us fall prey to this and I too can say the same from personal experience. I too was on a search for validation and acceptance, only until I realized that the pursuit to external happiness, made me the unhappiest.
Coaching allows you to recognize your inner self and become aware of the person you really are and are meant to be. It is a process of gradual yet permanent change - of falling in love with yourself; getting to know and understand yourself better and work to fulfill your own wants rather than what the world expects you to be and do.
Coaching is not and must not be confused with therapy. Coaching is a companion, a coach that is for those who are willing to make a positive change in their lives and cognizance and most importantly, who have the courage to make the necessary changes.
Coaching helps you to be You or as we say it in the coaching language, BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF.